THE ULTIMATE SECRETS TO A MEANINGFUL LIFE REVEALED!!!

Remember the day you hit 20 years old? You were excited about embarking the new adventures of adulthood and freedom. And there you go,” I can do this,do that and all is well” .But less did you know that your twenties were the days where you were going to encounter so many untold mysteries….and yes these are the years where you’re life should start having … Continue reading THE ULTIMATE SECRETS TO A MEANINGFUL LIFE REVEALED!!!

EXPERIENCING MORE JOY IN YOUR LIFE.

  NO ONE under the sun doesn’t want to feel happy and experience a broad smile on his or her face. The only thing people want is someone to cheer them up so they put a smile on their face.Unfortunately  we forget cheering up ourselves is our very own task. So here are nine simple tips to experience more joy in life Prepared by Bhoke … Continue reading EXPERIENCING MORE JOY IN YOUR LIFE.

THE UNTOLD SECRETS TO A HEALTHY SELF ESTEEM

Good day twenties , it is my hope that you are doing well and are putting your time and energy into building a better and stronger version of yourselves. Thank you so very much for reading my blog. It gives me such an honor to know that my message is being delivered. For this week i would love to share with you several things you … Continue reading THE UNTOLD SECRETS TO A HEALTHY SELF ESTEEM

MY FRIENDS CHANGED ME

My sister would ask me about my friends from time to time. At that time, I knew she was doing what any other sister would do. But now I think I am getting a bigger picture.

Thank you very much for reading my blog. Please do follow my blog, join my mailing list and & if you like this don’t hesitate to share it with your friends.

As requested by one of the blog readers, today we are going to be discussing the influence of friends on our personal development, actions and beliefs.

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LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THESE FEW FACTS ABOUT FRIENDS.

Strong willed friends increase your self-control.

Spending time with disciplined friends may influence you to do stuff you would normally put off due to laziness such as going to the gym or being organized.

People with fewer friends have in adequate social experience.

Now this is self-explanatory,  I can say that each person comes with a different package. Having more friends allows you to experience a vast amount of good experiences. Therefore, fewer friends equals fewer windows (seeing life from a different perspective)

Too many social media connections increase stress levels.

When it comes to social media, “the more the merrier” may not be the best approach. A report from the University of Edinburgh Business School says that more Facebook friends means more stress. Researchers linked an abundance of social media connections to increased anxiety about offending people.

 

The increased stress stemmed from people’s desire to present a version of themselves that was acceptable to all their social media contacts. While your college buddies may enjoy publicly discussing that “weekend in Mbudya,” your parents and co-workers may be less than impressed by those stories. So before you begin adding people to your social circle, remember the potential downside to having too many friends on social media.

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The closer friends one has the more longevity the person has too. This is because it lowers the risk of diseases by reducing blood pressure, heart rate and cholesterol

Friends also influence your choices, beliefs, self-confidence, behavior and emotions.

Beliefs can be changed if they were constantly challenged and if new beliefs were constantly repeated. Lots of my friends had a pessimistic view of the job market before they even had the chance to interact with it. This pessimistic view came from the continues programming they received from their friends in the form of suggestions that are repeated over and over such as “it’s extremely hard to find a job these days”

Friends Alter the perception of each other, if the majority of a group thinks that a person is arrogant or snobbish then this belief will be transferred to the whole group. Since believing that someone is treating you in a bad way might be interpreted as a sign that shows that you are not that worthy then such a belief might affect your self-confidence badly.

An experiment has shown that a monkey that never feared snakes started to fear them when it saw the anxious response of another monkey that feared them! This means that watching someone who is feeling afraid, anxious or helpless could teach you how to be like him.

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Your friends can infect you with bad emotions: Why do you think you experience different emotions while watching a movie? Simply because the facial expressions of actor’s transfers to you their emotional states and the same happens with your friends. Your sad friend might make you feel sad and your depressed friend can let you become depressed on the long term.

Your likely to start acting like the people you surround yourself with. Pick friends who make poor choices, and you could get dragged down fast. But, if you choose friends who inspire and challenge you to become better, you’ll increase your chances of reaching your goals.

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Having said that. I think we should ask ourselves are our friends making us better?

Or a less selfish question

Are we making our friends better?

You may not have to change your friends but what you must do is to become conscious of the facts that were mentioned in this article and to filter everything that you hear or see.

 

Don’t accept your friends’ view of the world, their beliefs or their opinions without proper realistic filtration. That would be enough to protect you

What are your thoughts on this . Please leave a comment below and let me know.

Write to you soon

Forever Herie

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SIX FACTS ABOUT BUYING ASSETS IN YOUR 2Os NO ONE TOLD YOU ABOUT

  Good day twenties. it is my hope that you are putting time & energy into building a better and stronger version of yourself. After all, you are the only person you are competing with. Thank you very much for reading my blog. Please do follow my blog, join my mailing list and & if you like this don’t hesitate to share it with your … Continue reading SIX FACTS ABOUT BUYING ASSETS IN YOUR 2Os NO ONE TOLD YOU ABOUT

THREE DAY QUOTE CHALLENGE: DAY 3

RULES FOR THE QUOTE CHALLENGE 1.Thank the blogger who nominated you. 2.Post 1-3 quotes a day for 3 consecutive days. 3.Nominate 3 bloggers each day. Hi everyone, In regards to the three day quote challenge put forward by my fellow blogger eddaz -Love & Relationships, Lifestyle, Poetry. Here comes the quotes for Day 3 quote challenge I nominate  1. It’s where my story begins 2.Gills writing … Continue reading THREE DAY QUOTE CHALLENGE: DAY 3

I AM NOT THE AVARAGE BLACK GIRL

They say I’m not the average black girl because I’m so well spoken Poised, full of etiquette, a white man’s token You know I remember my ex’s mother telling me, “I didn’t know how I was gonna react when he brought a black girl, but I like you because you talk so white.” But when did me talking right equate to me talking white? They … Continue reading I AM NOT THE AVARAGE BLACK GIRL

THREE DAY QUOTE CHALLENGE : DAY 2

RULES FOR THE QUOTE CHALLENGE 1.Thank the blogger who nominated you. 2.Post 1-3 quotes a day for 3 consecutive days. 3.Nominate 3 bloggers each day. Hi everyone, In regards to the three day quote challenge put forward by my fellow blogger eddaz -Love & Relationships, Lifestyle, Poetry. Here comes the quotes for Day 2 quote challenge I nominate Vanessa bliss idiot writing warning curves ahead … Continue reading THREE DAY QUOTE CHALLENGE : DAY 2

THE FOUR STAGES OF LIFE

You believe in Santa Claus. You don’t believe in Santa Claus. You are Santa Claus. You look like Santa Claus. These stages can also be broken down into four stages that are not Santa related. Mimicry At this first stage we are helpless, we can’t talk, walk or feed ourselves. We copy from our parents or our care takers. The idea is that the adults … Continue reading THE FOUR STAGES OF LIFE

THREE LEGGED DOG

Tell me why you look so damned happy even though you only have three legs? I continued my monologue by explaining to it that: “I have all the arms and legs I was born with so why am I so miserable at this particular moment while you are so damn happy?” Three legged dogs are literally three legged dogs. As a result of sickness or … Continue reading THREE LEGGED DOG